domingo, 12 de junho de 2011

A segunda esposa de Maomé: SAUDA BINT ZAM'AH



O texto abaixo relativo a Sauda Bint Zam'ah, a segunda esposa de Maomé, é parte do apêndice do livro Women in Islam, escrito por P. Newton e M. Rafiqul-Haqq, disponível em Answering Islam. (A lista das mulheres de Maomé está aqui)
Resumo
Depois da morte da sua primeira esposa, Kadija, o viúvo Maomé se casou com a também viúva Sauda. Maomé acabou tendo várias outras esposas (número total varia com a fonte consultada), todas elas mais jovens que Sauda. Após um tempo, Maomé queria se divorciar de Sauda porque ela era velha e feia. Sauda pediu a Maomé para não se divorciar dela. Em troca, ela abriu mão do dia que Maomé iria visitá-la (ter sexo com ela) em favor de Aisha (a esposa-criança de Maomé), que teria deste modo duas noites com Maomé durante a rotação que ele fazia entre as suas esposas.

Qual o problema disso?
1. Maomé é o exemplo de conduta para a nação do Islão, possuindo, segundo o Alcorão 68:4, a mais alta e excelente moral.
2. Maomé estabeleceu o precedente que um homem pode se casar com uma outra mulher sempre que ele considerar que alguma das suas esposas se tornem feias ou deixem de ser atraentes.
3. O que é pior, ele estabeleceu como permissível e aceitável o homem divorciar uma esposa por causa da idade da esposa, como sendo algo bom para a esposa.
4. Um mulher não tem os mesmos direitos. 
5. Isso sem mencionar que a história toda é repugnante e pervertida. E que deixa de existir a dignidade de um casal envelhecer junto. 

O texto do livro em inglês segue abaixo

The following incident concerns a lady called Sauda bint Zam'ah. She was first married to one of the early Muslims, as-Sakran ibn 'Amr ibn 'Abd Shams, who took her and seven of his friends and emigrated to Ethiopia to escape persecution. In Ethiopia Sauda's husband died and she returned to her homeland.

At about the same time Muhammad lost his first wife Khadijah. Not long after, Muhammad married Sauda. No doubt because of their common experience, they could understand each other's pain and were able to comfort one another.
During the course of time Muhammad married other women. And before his death, he had nine wives.
Ibn Kathir, quoting Muslim, reported that Muhammad died leaving nine wives, but he used to apportion his days to only eight of the nine. This ninth wife was Sauda who gave her day to 'Aisha.
In spite of the long companionship Muhammad had with Sauda, the Hadith tells us that Sauda later on missed out on her privileges as a wife and a companion to Muhammad. Muhammad did not
only stop fulfilling his obligations as a husband to Sauda, but he even stopped visiting her.
The authenticity of this report is undeniable. For example Bukhari reported:
Narrated 'Aisha that Sauda bint Zam'ah gave up her turn to 'Aisha, and so the prophet used to give 'Aisha both her day and the day of Sauda.173
But why would Sauda give up her privileges and the company of
the only man in her life to 'Aisha?
We find the answer in most commentaries on Q. 4:128:
 
If a woman fears rebelliousness or aversion in her husband, there is no fault in them if the couple set things right between them; right settlement is better; and souls are very prone to avarice.

Of the above verse Ibn Kathir said:

If the wife fears that her husband might reject her, or avoid her, she might give up all or some of her rights concerning financial support or clothing or housing or such other rights against him, and he can accept these concessions from her. There is no fault on her for giving up her rights and there is no fault on him if he accepts her concessions. This is why the Most High said: (there is no fault in them if the couple set things right between them) then He said: (right settlement is better) than separation... this is why, when Sauda bint Zam'ah became old, the Prophet of Allah decided to divorce her. She besought him to keep her in return of giving up her day to 'Aisha. So he accepted her offer and did not divorce her.

... on the authority of Ibn 'Abbas who said: Sauda feared that the Prophet of Allah might divorce her, so she said to him: O Prophet of Allah, do not divorce me, and my day shall belong to 'Aisha. So he did and that verse Q. 4:128 was revealed.

Why did the Prophet of Allah want to divorce Sauda? And if he did not want to divorce her why did she fear him divorcing her so that she gave up her day to 'Aisha? What was her fault?
There was no fault on Sauda's part except that she became old according to Ibn Kathir.

Some reports say that Muhammad did actually divorce Sauda but she negotiated a settlement with him which he accepted.

Al-Qasim ibn Abi Beza said the prophet sent to Sauda a message divorcing her. So she waited for the prophet on his way to 'Aisha. When she saw him she said I implore you by Him who revealed His words to you and chose you above all his creation why did you divorce me. I have become old and have no need of men but I wish to be resurrected amongst your wives in the last day. So he changed his mind and she said I have given my day and night to ['Aisha] the prophet's beloved... (See Ibn Kathir on Q. 4:128)

Others say that he did not divorce her but only wanted to. What is certain though is that Sauda gave up her day to 'Aisha. But why would any woman give up her share of her only husband to another woman?

To get a fuller picture of the above incident let us look at what the commentators said about Q. 4:128.

Of Q. 4:128 Razi said:

Some said: '(Feared)' meaning 'knew', others said: '(feared)' meaning 'thought'. But all that is ignoring the obvious for no reason. What is meant (by feared) is fear itself But fear does not happen unless there are signs indicating fear. These signs here are that the man says to his wife you are ugly or you are old and I want to marry a beautiful youthful woman... the (rebelliousness or aversion) of the husband against the rights of the woman is to avoid her, looks angry when looking her in the face, deserts her sexually and mistreats her.

Did Muhammad treat Sauda as Razi commented? Sauda must have seen the writing on the wall so she decided to salvage some protection from Muhammad.

Ibn Kathir also said:

Concerning Q. 4:128 'Aisha said: 'It concerns the man who has two wives. One of them has become old or is ugly and he does not like her company much, so she says: "Do not divorce me, and you are free from your obligations towards me.'"" This Hadith is established in the Two Sahihs. What the verse seems to say is that their reconciliation, on the condition that she gives up some of her rights, and the acceptance of the husband of that, is better than complete separation, just as the Prophet kept Sauda on the condition that she gave her day to 'Aisha and did not divorce her but kept her amongst his wives. This was done in order that his nation might take him as their example and that this act is lawful and permissible.

Indeed the nation of Muhammad has imitated him. Razi informs us:

This verse was revealed first in Ibn abi as-Sa'ib who had a wife and children from her. When she became old he was about to divorce her, but she said: Do not divorce me, but let me look after my children and apportion a few nights for me every month. The husband said: If this is so, it is better for me. The second was that the Prophet wanted to divorce Sauda bint Zam'ah but she besought him to keep her on the condition that she would give up her day to 'Aisha, and he allowed that and did not divorce her. The third is reported by

'Aisha that it concerns the man who has a wife but he wants to replace her, so she says: Keep me and marry someone else and you are free from supporting me and apportioning your nights to me.

And here is what Ibn al-'Arabi, a great Muslim scholar has said:

... when Sauda bint Zam'ah became old, the Prophet of Allah wanted to divorce her. However, she preferred to remain amongst his wives, so she said, 'Keep me, and my day shall belong to 'Aisha', and he did, and thus she died as one of his wives. Ibn Abi Malikah declared that this verse was revealed regarding 'Aisha. And in this verse is the answer to those light headed fools who say that if a man took the youth of a woman and she became old he cannot replace her. So praise be to Allah who lifted such burden and made an escape from such dilemma.174

So the nation of Muhammad has innocently and completely imitated his action, and did not forget to give Allah the praise. Dr bint ash-Shati' the author of the book The Wives of the Prophet (nisaa' an-Nabi) described Sauda as an unattractive old widow and overweight.175 (Bukhari tells us that Sauda was a tall176, fat and very slow lady177)

Dr bint ash-Shati' described the matrimonial relationship between Muhammad and Sauda in the following words:

Sauda realised from the experience of her age that there is an insurmountable barrier between her and the heart of Muhammad ... and she realised without a doubt that her share of the prophet is one of mercy and kindness; not love, harmony and oneness.178

If there was no love, harmony and oneness why did Muhammad marry Sauda in the first place?
And if there was no love, harmony and oneness, where is the mercy?

Dr bint ash-Shati'said that Khola bint Hakim was the one who suggested to Muhammad marrying Sauda and 'Aisha who was seven years old at the time. "Muhammad commented on her suggestion saying: 'but who will look after the house and who will serve the daughters of the prophet?'" At this Khola suggested the marriage of Sauda... and the prophet agreed. "And Sauda was completely satisfied to take her place in the house of the prophet and to serve his daughters."179

Now the picture is clear; 'Aisha became the love of Muhammad, and Sauda became the servant of the daughters of the prophet. After so many years where Sauda cooked, washed, mended, served the prophet and his daughters and comforted the prophet in his sorrows after the death of his first wife, when Sauda became old Muhammad wanted to divorce her for no reason except that she became old and unattractive.

The Quran speaks of love and tenderness between husbands and wives in the following words:

Of His signs it is that He has created mates for you of your own kind that you may find peace of mind through them, and He has put love and tenderness between you. (Q. 30:21)

The above incident gives us an idea about the meaning and the limitations of this love and tenderness spoken of by the Qur'an. Where is the love and the mercy spoken of by the Qur'an in the incident of Sauda? Should Muhammad be judged by the Qur'an or is Muhammad above the Quran?

The author of a standard text book on Islamic law wrote:

What some men of lust who have no moral values do, in divorcing their wives without a reason, is a thing that is not stated nor approved by Islam. And Allah must take vengeance on such men in this life and the next.180

The above statement sounds beautiful and reasonable until we read a few pages later the following words by the same author:


[Divorce is permissible] if the reason was the unsuitability of the woman for enjoyment due to certain defects in her or due to old age or such things.181

Divorcing one's wife because of old age is permissible and acceptable within the scope of being good to one's wife; even considered to be the best standard,  for Muhammad described himself as the best husband and the Qur'an says of Muhammad "Thou dost most surely posses high moral excellence." Q. 68:4. And on the other hand the "Qur'an was Muhammad's character" as one Hadith says.

But Dr bint ash-Shati's excuse for Muhammad's behavior is that he was a mere human being. So the Qur'an was his character and he also was a mere human being. The equation is clear enough for all to see. And the believers believe that he is the best husband and possessor of the highest moral excellence.

References
173  Bukhari, the Book of Nikah, Hadith No. 139.
l74  Ahkam al-Qur'an, Abi Bakr Ibn 'Abd Allah known as Ibn al-'Arabi, Dar al-Kotob al-'Elmeyah, commenting on Q. 4:128.
175  Nisaa' 'an-Nabi, Dr. Bint ash-Shati', Dar al-Kitab al-'Arabi, 1985, p. 62, 67.
176  Bukhari, Vol. 1, Book 4, Hadith No. 148.
177  Bukhari, Vol. 2, Book 26, Hadith No. 740.
178  Nisaa' 'an-Nabi, Dr. Bint ash-Shati', Dar al-Kitab al-'Arabi, 1985, p. 64.
179  Nisaa' 'an-Nabi, Dr. Bint ash-Shati', Dar al-Kitab al-'Arabi, 1985, p. 64.
180  'Abd ar-Rahman al-Gaziri, al-Fiqh 'ala al-Mazahib al-Arba'a, Dar al-Kutub al-'Elmeyah, 1990, vol. 4, p. 278.
181  'Abd ar-Rahman al-Gaziri, al-Fiqh 'ala al-Mazahib al-Arba'a, Dar al-Kutub al-'Elmeyah, 1990, vol. 4, p. 281.

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